When the unthinkable happens
Why do we fear being photographed?
We think we're too old, too fat, not pretty enough, not good enough... it's never the right time, I need to lose weight, I need to do this and that and... STOP!
Life is happening, right now... TODAY! A photograph is an archive of you and who you are in that very moment in time. I don't know about you, but I love looking through old photographs of my parents, after all, they are pieces of me and I love listening to stories about when they were young and carefree. I think of their photographs as little pieces into their past, I get to meet family members I've never met, places I'll never get to go, and all the stories that I will now get to tell my children and their children and so on.
There are moments in our lives we gladly welcome a photographer, we allow them to capture the beautiful, happy, joyful moments like, weddings, births, graduations, and family gatherings. But what about in those "other" moments, the ones that are harder... death, fire, cancer...
In those moments, many of us feel like it's inappropriate to document, but it is in those moments we need those memories the most. The last moment with a loved one, a single image of your home, a brutal reminder of how much you loved... so much love. This is why we take photographs, to remember the love and the feeling in that moment in time. It's in the details that we remember.
In the last few months my extended family has been through a lot, good & bad... my sister's beautiful wedding, full of joy & happiness, then the sudden loss of my aunt (a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend...) and just this past weekend my cousins had a devastating fire.
It's in the good and happy moments we welcome photographs, but it's in the "other" moments we cling to them like gold.
I guess what I'm really trying to say is there will never be a good time for you to take photographs or hell be in them... but don't be afraid to document your everyday, don't be afraid of documenting yourself... even the scary moments. Capture all of them, mundane as you may think they are because, trust me, in the quiet moments after a loss of any kind, you're going to need them the most.